Women and work

Sitting back relaxing the other day with a few other Alphas and can tell you that it is hard for us to not mix business and personal lives. What I mean is this, when you are an alpha and have your own business or work for a company that you are making a career out of you cannot just leave it a the door. So if you are having a bad day at work it will spill over into the personal side. Not in the same way though. You will become distant, un-emotional, or just totally consumed even when out with your woman. What makes it worse is that women understand it as you have lost interest in them which is far from the truth. It is more like she is a constant when the rest is going haywire. Don’t feel bad and kick yourself in the ass you just need to let them know what is going on.

This is not to say that being an alpha is bad, I view it as the only way to be but sometimes the betaness comes out with your woman because well that’s what boys were taught to do at a very young age. So what are you supposed to do about it you ask. Well get over it ! be a man and tell her what you want, how you want it, and WHY you want it that way. Seriously we alphas are that way everywhere else in life so why not be that way in your personal life? This is why most (if not all) alphas I know that have their own business are either divorced (maybe many times) or have been labeled lifetime bachelor. I say take what you want and keep your chin up. there is no reason to be sorry for wanting more and more importantly getting what you want.

Now some of you people will take this as an insult to the way you are living now. think of it this way. at work you tell people what you want and what you expect. You will promote, help and secure every resource to get to the desired goal you want to get to. so why not do the same thing in your personal life? But instead we all find something that is comfortable, familiar, and makes us happy. But what happens is it always ends up that there was never any mention of expectations of what we wanted. So instead it comes down to another breakup or divorce, and yes just because you got married it does not mean the expectations are always spelled out. So there really is no reason to change what you are doing when you get out of the office. If you want it you need to spell it out. Not only for her to understand but also for yourself. It is when you don’t spell it out is when you are going to look back and realize what you had after it is gone.