siblings and business

Family and work.

I must first start off by saying that I have no siblings so I have no firsthand experience with what I am about to say but it has never stopped me before so fuck it.

Last night I was watching an episode of the deadliest catch.  There was the younger brother (son of the late Capitan Phil) took off to get a key for a PO box and it took 2.5 hours. And when they returned claimed it was an hour at most. were they tweaking? Maybe but who knows.  I know a couple of brothers that had a successful vegetable distribution business where it was the same story, one was always working the other always screwing off.

From my point of view when siblings work together it is always one that does not want to actually do the work. it does not matter if there are 2 siblings or 8 siblings. There is always one that does not do anything.  This of course leads to a number of problems as the one that does not want to do any actual work will screw up the entire system. They will go around making trouble, telling people to do the wrong things, and maybe even start rumors for no other reason than they are bored. Now when I go into a company and see this behavior there is one of two responses.  1) oh well what can you do, they are here and we take care of our family, or 2) yeah you tell them they are fired.   Ok let’s look first at option 2, ok I will, your fired and your office is already packed up on the way to your house the lock has been changed and here is your last check that is the easy option.  Ok looking at option 1 is a little more difficult. This is where I have to evaluate how many problems they are causing and if it is economically stunting the company or not. If it is not hurting the company you can either challenge them and make them responsible for things that they are doing, or leave it alone. For the most part though if a sibling is causing a problem it will only get worse. Do not them ruin a company just because you ‘take care of your own’. It might be easier to just tell them to stay away and keep paying them.

The mirror

So I am sitting here on Sunday night and looking back on my life over the past few years there have been a few lines in movies being advertised that either touch me or people close to me.  It is however fucked up that every single movie ends with a happy ending.  Life does NOT always have a happy ending. People get hurt, some heal some do not. Some people take a long time other people seem to really move on the minute after it happens.

I could go through a list of movies that have all the bullshit fairytale happy endings. Instead I am going to be simple and very blunt here. Get the fuck over it.  I can tell you that through life’s ups and downs nothing really matter except being able to look at yourself every morning and every single evening and like what you see.  It does not matter who you are, who you think you are, what you have or don’t have, how much  you have or don’t have.  It does not matter where you live, who you live with or anything else. As long as you can take a serious look in the mirror and not want to break the mirror you are doing pretty good. You really need to remember that the only person you absolutely need to live with is that person in the mirror. 

As for the rest of life, all of the material things, monetary values, and relationships revolve around how you look and perceive yourself in the mirror.  Meaning that you will only be as happy and content as you let yourself be.  Do not fall into the problem of actually believing Hollywood because they are full of shit.  Life is tough and you have 2 ways to exit life.  One is to do it quickly and early, or you can slug it out and enjoy the ride. Personally I am slugging it out and nothing else matters except that guy in the mirror.

friend and more

Friends

So we are talking at the round table last night and here is the theory we have come up with about friends.

You always have a close circle of friends we will all this the ‘inner circle (IC)” then there is the 2nd and 3rd tier (T2 and T3) then a group of people called acquaintances.

So your IC never needs to say I am your friend and will always be here for you. the IC just knows this to be true and will never come into question when you are in need. You can disappear for months, get back together and pick up like nothing happened. They will not ask you where you have been, what you were doing or any details while you were MIA. The only concern will be how you are, if everything is ok and if you need something. The IC always welcomes you back and even bust your balls about not keeping in touch. The IC knows you will tell the whole story when you are ready. usually once a person is in the IC it is unlikely that their status will change. These are true friends that you will have for a long time.

Tier 2 and Tier 3 as a little more difficult to deal with. There are a few differences such as T2 friends are those friends that are fickly friends and only show up when things are good. if you disappear for a while and get back in touch with them you will get the 3rd degree about where you have been, why you didn’t call, who else was involved, and why they were not included. T3 friends are a little less concerned about what the actual story is, they are happy you are back and if they don’t hear the story they will most likely make something up. people can move from one group to the other but it is unlikely that they will move into the IC. It is not their fault they have proven time and again that they do not deserve to be in the IC by spreading rumors, talking about the situation and letting everyone know what problems everyone in the IC has. This is why you need to be guarded with T2. T3 on the other hand is not all that vested in your life and id you are around you will all hang out have fun shoot the shit and talk about nothing. It is funny however sometime you will have a T3 jump to the IC as unlikely as it is sometimes it does happen and it is more likely than a T2 getting into the IC. It should also be noted that the T2 group is the group to be the most careful around. They will always tell you they are your friend and will always be around to help you when you are in need. This may be true but only if they can take advantage of the situation either at that time or tuck it away for future use. This is the group that will let your business hang out in the wind and because they know a good deal about you can be quite a bit even if they make up a good bit of the story.

I think it is pretty clear who an acquaintance is, this is a person who you know will say hi to and ask how they have been. Not much more happens for the most part. These people are the ones you should pay attention to because it is most likely that they are the ones who will become the IC and skip the ‘friends’ group.

I hope this helps and in no way will be all of the groups, you can have sub groups and even more of them. This will come to be important in the future stories as I have asked the contributors to start using this type of classification in all their writings. This way you can see the pattern of some of the most sociopath people that we all deal with. It is going to be a fun ride from here on out.

blast from the past

I was out with real friends last night and it was really nice to see them. Now I have not seen a few of these people in a while and to be honest did not really know what to expect to happen, but it was a fun time. We were reminiscing about the ‘good old days’ and some of the antics we pulled.

For instance one time long ago there were 3 of us out for dinner. We had a pretty cute waitress and the one guy, let’s call him Compy, was really talking her up, flirting and going after her. Me and Carguy, are sitting there eating, drinking and having a fun time watching this all unfold. It must be said that normally Compy was not this forward with the women so it was like he read a book and went to a seminar. Anyway we are about half way through dinner and we can see that he is getting up the courage to ask the waitress for her number, not knowing if it is good or bad at this point we try to divert the conversation, so he does not crash and burn yet. So the next time the waitress comes up I ask her about the other waitress and say I would like to have breakfast with her friend in the morning. We this went over as well as to be expected, or so I thought. Toward the end of dinner waitress2 comes over and says if you can do eggs over easy I will make the coffee, score! Compy had such a look of amazement and it gave him enough confidence to actually grow a set of balls. So our waitress comes back and he really digs into her and in the end she shoots him down like a heat seeker missile, it really was a pitty. The best part of the night was the next morning when I had to cook for both of them.

This is just a tidbit of life we have been through but it really puts things in perspective. Back when we were younger we all had a lot of free time and a little bit of money and enjoyed ourselves more than we should have. But what are friends for, we always have fun when we get together. So keep in touch with your friends that you had fun with. Keep away from the negative people in life have fun be positive and go for it.

proper communication

Proper lines of communication.

So we are sitting here in a group talking about the companies we are running. The subject is what is the most destructive idea that comes up? I will tell you it is when people go to the wrong person to get information. What I mean is simple, go to the person you are supposed to go to. Seriously folks do not send me an email asking on where the paperclips are and if they were ordered, go to your boss or at most purchasing! Do not ask me to ask a supplier for a small part when I am dealing with them because I am working on a special project! This is what inventory people and purchasing people are for. If you have an issue and they are not getting you an answer then let me know but do not tell me I need to get it out of the factory while I am ‘in the area’. People need to follow the chain of work, not just go to whoever they feel like talking to that day.

Then there is the cell phone epidemic. So I call someone from the office, leave a message that says “call me in the office” what happens ? the cell phone starts ringing! How stupid do you need to be that you cannot follow simple directions. It is not that I need to talk to him about dinner, no we are supposed to be on a conference call and he gets upset because I can not conference him on from a cell phone? Or transfer him over to engineering or purchasing or anyone else for that matter.

People follow the proper lines of communications and there will be less problems. People are hired to do a job, and everyone is not hired to do the same job! so stop being a fucking idiot and trying to 'show the boss' how good you are at not being a team player or doing your work in the most efficient way of doing business. follow the normal path of doing business for the normal business and everything will be just fine.

are we men all mad???

So I was reading an article on why men are mad but I cannot say I agree completely. It is not so much that we are mad it is that what we expect from women is not there. and from that you can also come to the conclusion that we cannot find what we are looking for in a woman. If you expect to be treated as equals all over EXCEPT in a relationship then yes YOU might be a problem. Now I do hold the door for a perfect stranger, I will help an old lady to cross the street. I was raised to be a MAN and by nature(or nurture) an alpha at that so I understand how to treat people and that they should in fact return that type of treatment. Women these days no longer do this and this is the problem. It seems that women would like men to not change from the old fashion ways of thinking, but they can be modern and equal.

This is a story from a friend: James

Let’s see if this make sense to you. James a while back was asked out by a successful lady. We will call her Barb (names have been changed) Now James was always taught that the person who does the asking does the paying and since it is typically the guy who does the asking the guy does the paying. Now Barb asked me out so herein lies the issue. So the check comes out and is set on the table. they just got another round of drinks and are in no rush to go anywhere. So they both are ignoring the bill that is laying there. as they are getting ready to leave James naturally pulls for his wallet to pay, Barb does not move. Now does this sound right? A woman asked a guy out and the guy ends up paying for what the privilege of having dinner with her? Like Barb is that special, I think not, I was at the bar watching this all play out. the kicker is that night another woman we can call her Mary who was sitting at the next table over heard and saw everything. Ok I helped a little bit with the back story and she was much nicer, better looking and accomplished! Well a few days later I am out with James and a couple of others and Barb came over and said hi and asked if James would buy her a drink, yeah right came out of my mouth but was written all over his face. But really the best part of the night is when Mary came over right after Barb did looked James right in the eyes and said “ let me buy you a drink” Needless to say Mary is a hell of a woman and James is now a happy man with a woman that respects him.

End of that, maybe an update will come later.


What I am saying is this. women really need to respect the men they are out with. If you want to play the game then you really need to follow the rules or be kicked out of the game. I do like to watch people play the game it is funny to see anyone try to play that has no help, and yes fellas if I am there and see you floundering I will try to help you out. I can’t say I have found what I am looking for but I have no need for games but if I can pass at least a little knowledge to the next round of guys it is the least I can do. And please don’t get me wrong there are some women out there that play and play it well and this is the woman I want to play with.

finding things and dealing with dipshits

Normally the reason people ascend to mahogany row is simple. We are able to do projects, supply products, and get hard to find items without breaking a sweat. The difficult is done right now and the impossible will take an hour or two. This is why we get paid the big bucks (yeah right) so when it come down to it we can be lazy most of our life and as long as we perform when we need to get the results no one cares but what fun is that, we like to push it in every single aspect of life and have not met many that are lazy.

But even the best of us get stumped once in a while. I am trying to find 2 ipad 2’s. Over the past few days there have been standing in line at 6am only to find out there is no shipment today. OR sold out. Or the best one is this short conversation

Me- do you have any ipad2’s I called and were told you have them.
Dipshit – yes we have quite a few left. Let me finish with this customer.

15 minutes later

Me- great I’ll take 2
Dipshit- sorry only one allowed at a time
Me – is that a store policy?
Dipshit – no it is apple’s
Me- really it says limit 2 per customer. (in big letters right behind the guy)
Dipshit – oh, yeah sorry. let me go check to see if we have any left.
Me- ok , thinking to myself what the hell do you mean any left, you said you have quite a few.

10 minutes later

Dipshit – I forgot to tell you they are all pre-sold
Me – ok how do I pre-buy one.
Dipshit – I don’t
Me – who knows?
Dipshit – you don’t need to get upset with me.
Me- I just want to ipad2’s with wifi+3G(ATT) and 64GB can you sell them to me or not
Dipshit – let me check with my boss
Me - ???? WTF ?????

Manager – sorry sir we are 2 weeks behind in deliveries.
Me – don’t you tell the guys on the floor this?
Manager – yeah we finished up a meeting an hour ago telling them what the story is.
Me- well that guy is a dipshit he could have told me over a half hour ago I had to wait 2 weeks


Come on apple you need to get your plants PRODUCING!!!!

miserable mental midgets

Every now and then we all run across a person who is a mental midget. someone who cannot do anything but make other people's lives miserable because they are a miserable person. this person can fuck up any relationship or business deal with minimal effort if they are actually involved or not. all the have to do is open up their mouth and shit comes out. 99% of the time what actually comes out is just an out and out lie no truth what so ever. there is not really much to say to this person, when you call them out on it they go crying to whoever will listen. When you leave it alone they pump up their chest and claim victory, but they have no clue that they are losing and are a looser.

If you ever run into someone like this do yourself a favor run the other way. do not befriend them, or even make friendly chit chat as they will take this as you being their best friend in the whole world, they are not so get the fuck away.

If you run across a person like this at work you need to abide by the following rules in dealing with them.
1) Always, always, ALWAYS converse with them OLNY through emails. You need to make sure every last detail is in writing otherwise they will claim they were never told or were not involved even if they were supposed to take care of the whole thing 1000%.
2) NEVER, NEVER, NEVER befriend them, they will take this as an opening to torpedo you.
3) If the person starts a rumor confront them immediately you need to set the tone that you are bigger, stronger, smarter than they are
4) If there is a second rumor that they start you MUST have a PUBLIC confrontation not only about the rumor but also what work they should have been doing at the time to set the tone with management so they can also watch what is happening.
5) If it continues you will have 2 things you must do. For their actual work that they are not doing you must show the management that they are not getting the job done and are not an effect team player and you must band together all of your coworkers and make them see what is actually happening.


As a side note, if you were actually friendly with these people before you realized what they actually are you need to slowly pull away, and then must treat them like a frie-nemy. They know they have done something wrong but you need to play it out slowly.

This is how you need to play these people otherwise they will not only fuck up the company, your job, and your personal life but they will also ruin your outlook on all new comers to your life.

people are fucked up

People are fucked up. how is that for straight and to the point! What is it you should say to these people, well not much if you don’t really have to see them. If you do need to see them you have a few ways you can deal with it, either be nice or tell them right out fuck off you terd.

For instance, I handed off this blog to a person that a couple of the post are based on and here is how the conversation goes

Terd – “ yeah I can do 3 post a week for a couple week while you are away. “
Me – “great I can spend all my time on what I need to do”
Terd – “no problem I just put it in my calendar it will be done”
Me- “great look forward to reading them when I get back”

So I got back yesterday and looked and low and behold NOTHING, not a fucking thing was posted. And here is the conversation that happened.

Me – “dude what happened you never posted anything”
Terd – “yeah I know I never got around to it”
Me – “why not, were you called out of town, was there a natural disaster, what the fuck happened?”
Terd – “oh nothing, just didn’t feel like it”
Me – ‘ok, great you ass, go fuck your pet turtle”

Yeah wait until he needs help! Yeah I will be right there no problem. then 3 hours later and I am still not there the conversation will end with me saying “I just didn’t feel like it – click”