Sitting back relaxing the other day with a few other Alphas and can tell you that it is hard for us to not mix business and personal lives. What I mean is this, when you are an alpha and have your own business or work for a company that you are making a career out of you cannot just leave it a the door. So if you are having a bad day at work it will spill over into the personal side. Not in the same way though. You will become distant, un-emotional, or just totally consumed even when out with your woman. What makes it worse is that women understand it as you have lost interest in them which is far from the truth. It is more like she is a constant when the rest is going haywire. Don’t feel bad and kick yourself in the ass you just need to let them know what is going on.
This is not to say that being an alpha is bad, I view it as the only way to be but sometimes the betaness comes out with your woman because well that’s what boys were taught to do at a very young age. So what are you supposed to do about it you ask. Well get over it ! be a man and tell her what you want, how you want it, and WHY you want it that way. Seriously we alphas are that way everywhere else in life so why not be that way in your personal life? This is why most (if not all) alphas I know that have their own business are either divorced (maybe many times) or have been labeled lifetime bachelor. I say take what you want and keep your chin up. there is no reason to be sorry for wanting more and more importantly getting what you want.
Now some of you people will take this as an insult to the way you are living now. think of it this way. at work you tell people what you want and what you expect. You will promote, help and secure every resource to get to the desired goal you want to get to. so why not do the same thing in your personal life? But instead we all find something that is comfortable, familiar, and makes us happy. But what happens is it always ends up that there was never any mention of expectations of what we wanted. So instead it comes down to another breakup or divorce, and yes just because you got married it does not mean the expectations are always spelled out. So there really is no reason to change what you are doing when you get out of the office. If you want it you need to spell it out. Not only for her to understand but also for yourself. It is when you don’t spell it out is when you are going to look back and realize what you had after it is gone.
Monday, February 28, 2011
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Vacation time
So I was sitting in traffic this morning taking a quick look on the crackberry at some of the social websites that plaque our life. I can say some people are really starved for attention! Seriously do we really care that you are twatting that you are pouring milk into your coffee, and then into your cereal? WE DON’T CARE. Just get your ass to work on time, oh I am sorry you’re the one that is always later but you have time to stop every 30 seconds to update your tweet. Then you have all of pictures from a 10 day vacation some guy took, he has only been back in town 4 days. but somehow he needs another vacation. HELLO are you kidding me, you take 3 weeks of serious vacation a year PLUS another week in days off, yeah you have been around a while but you are always either ON vacation or thinking about a vacation. you must be one of those ‘working trust funders’. You say you travel 1st class, I know it will take you at least 6 weeks to save enough for a coach ticket. Either that or you are just making up all of the pictures and reading about the place… hummm next time you tell me where you are going I think a trip to the bookstore is in order.
For all of you people that take 2-4 weeks of vacation time a tear on serious vacations STOP your complaining. We tend to take less vacation, work more hours and hey we are typically happier than you are. what does that say about you? you need to get away to make yourself happy? What kind of life is that? So go twat, post, blog, hog, yap and crap about all of your vacation and what you saw if that makes you happy because you think others will never go where you did or will do what you have done. If that makes you happy?
And next time you come back from vacation you need to hold off on saying you need another one. At the very least I would say wait 3 months at least that way you might look serious about the work you try to look like you are doing.
For all of you people that take 2-4 weeks of vacation time a tear on serious vacations STOP your complaining. We tend to take less vacation, work more hours and hey we are typically happier than you are. what does that say about you? you need to get away to make yourself happy? What kind of life is that? So go twat, post, blog, hog, yap and crap about all of your vacation and what you saw if that makes you happy because you think others will never go where you did or will do what you have done. If that makes you happy?
And next time you come back from vacation you need to hold off on saying you need another one. At the very least I would say wait 3 months at least that way you might look serious about the work you try to look like you are doing.
Monday, February 21, 2011
Washington's Day NOT President's day
Today is presidents day. why are we celebrating this? Really why?
Just another day to pay the government workers for not working? Seriously why are you getting off for this, there is NO reason for this. Now if memory serves me it should still be called Washington’s birthday. And NOT presidents day. it was never officially changed. Now in some states they actually use it to honor other people as well. this is another raft of shit. It was and should still be in honor of the first recognized president of the United States of America. Not to celebrate Lincoln, Eisenhower, or Nixon. Try this on Martin Luther king day. you think anyone would stand for calling it Black hero weekend instead of Martin Luther King day? Try it and see what happens. But that is an entirely different story to be told at a later date.
Ok so it is a FEDERAL holiday, does this mean we do not have to pay the federal employees for this ? and if it is Federal why are the STATE employees off? Is it because without the federal workers the states cannot do their job. If that is the case then why do we need state workers at all. This holiday is so bogus. I am sitting here thinking that yeah if this holiday was actually still celebrating the FIRST president I would not have a problem but as soon as you have people fucking with it like they have is does not mean anything.
So stop calling things what the are not and learn the history behind the actual holiday.
Just another day to pay the government workers for not working? Seriously why are you getting off for this, there is NO reason for this. Now if memory serves me it should still be called Washington’s birthday. And NOT presidents day. it was never officially changed. Now in some states they actually use it to honor other people as well. this is another raft of shit. It was and should still be in honor of the first recognized president of the United States of America. Not to celebrate Lincoln, Eisenhower, or Nixon. Try this on Martin Luther king day. you think anyone would stand for calling it Black hero weekend instead of Martin Luther King day? Try it and see what happens. But that is an entirely different story to be told at a later date.
Ok so it is a FEDERAL holiday, does this mean we do not have to pay the federal employees for this ? and if it is Federal why are the STATE employees off? Is it because without the federal workers the states cannot do their job. If that is the case then why do we need state workers at all. This holiday is so bogus. I am sitting here thinking that yeah if this holiday was actually still celebrating the FIRST president I would not have a problem but as soon as you have people fucking with it like they have is does not mean anything.
So stop calling things what the are not and learn the history behind the actual holiday.
Friday, February 18, 2011
Conversations
Do you ever wonder how much work actually gets done and how much conversation that has nothing to do with work gets done?
Seriously many days go by where we are either locked away in meetings, in our office working on a project or out of the office on business. But when we come through you hear a complete switch of what it happening in the office. Some days it just goes from a loud roar to dead quiet. some days it goes from one subject to another, and some days it nothing changes and people keep talking about this or that which has absolutely nothing to do with work.
So let me point out that you are at work to, well WORK. if you want to talk about work to learn from each other it is fine but you need to get your work done. If you want to sit and complain that you do not have enough time to get your work done and we hear you talking all day about subject matter that has nothing to do with work, well guess what…. that’s right at review time it will show. So instead of talking about nothing all day get to work, if you think we are not watching think again. If you believe we do not care about what you do you are correct up to a point because as long as ALL the work gets done we are pretty happy but this is just doing the minimum amount of work required so you can bet that it will show up on your review. But if in fact you actually do your work and then do some more work even if only to better yourself with business related topics that will show you care and want to do more. And it will show up on your review. So instead of talking about nothing all day and then ‘not having enough time’ well go bugger off!!!
For the people that always go the extra step and the little bit more yes that’s right you will benefit and get ahead. For those of you that do just the bare minimum well you will stay at the bare minimum and do not try and talk your way into more because it will just not happen.
Seriously many days go by where we are either locked away in meetings, in our office working on a project or out of the office on business. But when we come through you hear a complete switch of what it happening in the office. Some days it just goes from a loud roar to dead quiet. some days it goes from one subject to another, and some days it nothing changes and people keep talking about this or that which has absolutely nothing to do with work.
So let me point out that you are at work to, well WORK. if you want to talk about work to learn from each other it is fine but you need to get your work done. If you want to sit and complain that you do not have enough time to get your work done and we hear you talking all day about subject matter that has nothing to do with work, well guess what…. that’s right at review time it will show. So instead of talking about nothing all day get to work, if you think we are not watching think again. If you believe we do not care about what you do you are correct up to a point because as long as ALL the work gets done we are pretty happy but this is just doing the minimum amount of work required so you can bet that it will show up on your review. But if in fact you actually do your work and then do some more work even if only to better yourself with business related topics that will show you care and want to do more. And it will show up on your review. So instead of talking about nothing all day and then ‘not having enough time’ well go bugger off!!!
For the people that always go the extra step and the little bit more yes that’s right you will benefit and get ahead. For those of you that do just the bare minimum well you will stay at the bare minimum and do not try and talk your way into more because it will just not happen.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Personality conflicts
So today I saw a personality conflict. Of a couple people in a small office. There is one person that is more of a engineer, cautious, deliberate, and detailed. The other person is technical, aggressive, and straight forward. The problem that arises is this the engineer has worked at the company longer and feels that he needs to control everything. if the phone rings and does not pick it up there is the need to know every detail about the conversation. If the phone rings and it might be for someone else he will not pick it up.
When these 2 people start getting into it is can escalate very quickly. They will start with remarks, then you’re supposed to do it this way or that way. then it goes to out and out screaming and yelling.
My whole view on this is quite simple. There are 2 very strong personalities that have their own idea on how to get things done. They are both going to the same point which is a good thing. But with all of the tension it is a tough situation which can get out of hand rather quickly. Is this good or bad, well it really depends on how issues are resolved. So far from my understanding at the end of every confrontation there is an actual discussion which they both pled their case on why it was done and for what effect and it is resolved peacefully.
The next question is how do you add a third person to the mix? That will have to wait for another time as this story is still being written.
When these 2 people start getting into it is can escalate very quickly. They will start with remarks, then you’re supposed to do it this way or that way. then it goes to out and out screaming and yelling.
My whole view on this is quite simple. There are 2 very strong personalities that have their own idea on how to get things done. They are both going to the same point which is a good thing. But with all of the tension it is a tough situation which can get out of hand rather quickly. Is this good or bad, well it really depends on how issues are resolved. So far from my understanding at the end of every confrontation there is an actual discussion which they both pled their case on why it was done and for what effect and it is resolved peacefully.
The next question is how do you add a third person to the mix? That will have to wait for another time as this story is still being written.
Monday, February 7, 2011
Monday after the big game.
It is Monday morning and 8 am has just passed. I have been sitting here watching people filter in and I really do not think the morning will be good for anything. I cannot imagine the quality of cars running through a production line will be good this morning either. If you knew you were going to have a party and not really be able to work this morning let see take the damn morning off you have vacation time use it! it is better to be upfront about things than try and do work at 20% of your normal slow rate.
But this is not just because there was a big game. This happens more often than not. so I guess it is something we all need to get used to. but there are a few caveats that we have been able to devise to catch everyone off guard. Like if a paid holiday comes around to make a 3 day weekend. you better be ready to work and work hard on both work days before and after the long weekend. we do this not for spite but to let you know that we need to make up the time that you were off. if you look at the countries that are growing they do this to a much more cruel extent. We are not cruel we just want to make sure that we get what we need. Sometimes, just sometimes we do actually schedule special training or meetings on these days just to see who will be ready to work and how to fill out the performance reviews so be ready. if we are in the meeting even if we are only popping in for a few minutes before taking off early rest assured we are keeping track of the people who are not performing.
But this is not just because there was a big game. This happens more often than not. so I guess it is something we all need to get used to. but there are a few caveats that we have been able to devise to catch everyone off guard. Like if a paid holiday comes around to make a 3 day weekend. you better be ready to work and work hard on both work days before and after the long weekend. we do this not for spite but to let you know that we need to make up the time that you were off. if you look at the countries that are growing they do this to a much more cruel extent. We are not cruel we just want to make sure that we get what we need. Sometimes, just sometimes we do actually schedule special training or meetings on these days just to see who will be ready to work and how to fill out the performance reviews so be ready. if we are in the meeting even if we are only popping in for a few minutes before taking off early rest assured we are keeping track of the people who are not performing.
Friday, February 4, 2011
wake up
It is Friday finally. It has been a hell of a week even us up at the top take time to wake up every now and then. Today was one of those days, and to all the employees that have come into my office while I was still waking up... piss off. If you wanted something the first answer that comes to mind is NO and your stupid. For those that have come in, made a suggestion the answer was most likely a YES not get the hell out of here.
Why such different answers you ask. Well I am here to tell you. If you go into any C-level office and the person is still groggy for any reason and it is just taking a little longer to get into gear in the morning. DO NOT come into the office with a problem and expect a positive answer it is well, just stupid. How do you like to solve problems when you are still waking up. that’s what I thought.
Now if you go into any C-level office under the same conditions and have a solution to a problem even if it is to make you life easier…. Well I can tell you all I need to do is nod and say ok or yes sounds good. You see we can still tell if an idea is good or not but we do not have to actually put much thought into the other parts it will affect because we did not tell you what to do and you are smart enough to figure it out. After all you are still working here and have direct contact with us so we already think you are smart enough to do the work and then some.
So when you see your boss is groggy in the morning, do yourself a favor. Never go into a C-level office with a problem and looking for solution it will be frowned upon on your next review especially if you do it often. But DO go in if you have a problem AND a solution that make sense, everyone will be much happier.
Why such different answers you ask. Well I am here to tell you. If you go into any C-level office and the person is still groggy for any reason and it is just taking a little longer to get into gear in the morning. DO NOT come into the office with a problem and expect a positive answer it is well, just stupid. How do you like to solve problems when you are still waking up. that’s what I thought.
Now if you go into any C-level office under the same conditions and have a solution to a problem even if it is to make you life easier…. Well I can tell you all I need to do is nod and say ok or yes sounds good. You see we can still tell if an idea is good or not but we do not have to actually put much thought into the other parts it will affect because we did not tell you what to do and you are smart enough to figure it out. After all you are still working here and have direct contact with us so we already think you are smart enough to do the work and then some.
So when you see your boss is groggy in the morning, do yourself a favor. Never go into a C-level office with a problem and looking for solution it will be frowned upon on your next review especially if you do it often. But DO go in if you have a problem AND a solution that make sense, everyone will be much happier.
Thursday, February 3, 2011
customers are always right?
Really so customers are always right! are you sure? When a customer calls to say that a part they got is not what they actually ordered you second guess yourself, you ask if they can send it back and you will re-ship the correct part when this one returns. The part comes back and it is the right part. this happens a couple of times. The customers usually are really getting pissed off by this time. So you sit back and ask yourself what is the problem, do we not understand what the customer wants? Are all the parts wrong that we are shipping? is there some other reason? So by this time it has escalated a few levels. So we ask can you please send a picture of what you are trying to replace and a picture of the part we sent you and point out the difference.
So the pictures come in with an email in capital letters stating that we are responsible for all shipping charges and down time and they will invoice us for the time spent to figure out the issue.
So what is the problem that we discovered you ask. Well it appears that the packing material was not completely removed from the unit!!!!! of course it will not fit. Maybe you should remove the 'engineer' label.
Here's your bill
So the pictures come in with an email in capital letters stating that we are responsible for all shipping charges and down time and they will invoice us for the time spent to figure out the issue.
So what is the problem that we discovered you ask. Well it appears that the packing material was not completely removed from the unit!!!!! of course it will not fit. Maybe you should remove the 'engineer' label.
Here's your bill
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